Being in a relationship has the potential to bring out the best in us. We can feel seen, cherished, and fulfilled.

However, what follows can often be a golden opportunity that sometimes falls short. Disappointment and frustration are inevitable in any relationship. These feelings can arise when the initial connection we felt with our partner evolves into a new dynamic that might be demanding or isolating.

Our ability to navigate these moments of tension often reflects our inner experiences and the lens through which we view the world. When we struggle to tolerate certain thoughts or feelings, we may project them outward, and these projections can influence our reality.

We may find ourselves grappling with the contrast between the person we fell in love with, who mirrored our best qualities, and the current version of the relationship that seems to demand more from us or leave us feeling abandoned.

Understanding and managing this tension, both within ourselves and within the relationship, is the essence of effective couples therapy. True couples therapy goes beyond merely discussing issues; it addresses and seeks to transform the patterns that perpetuate problems.

I find great value in working with couples because it offers a unique opportunity to gain profound insights into our individual journeys while also transcending challenges to create a new, unified way of being. This approach takes into account the histories and aspirations of everyone involved in the relationship.

The work involves developing affect tolerance, working with our nervous system to better manage emotional tension, and learning to endure difficult feelings of disappointment and frustration. This process allows us to uncover what lies beneath our pain.

I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to explore what might be hindering you from understanding your true needs and advocating effectively for yourself and your relationship. This environment supports each person in the relationship to be fully and safely expressed.